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If you do adult life well enough, eventually you’ll be considered such an exemplar of adult behaviour that your boss will ask you to lead other people, or you will naturally end up being a leader by virtue of having more skill or knowledge. But promotions don’t usually come with an instruction manual, and too often, we see senior-level leaders thinking and behaving in intermediate-level ways. In today’s episode, we’ll discuss how:
- Leadership involves having authority or knowledge that others lack. It requires being the first to act or take risks to show others the way.
- Power itself is neutral — it depends how it’s used. Abuses of power have led people to fear it, but thoughtful leaders can wield it for good.
- Good leaders follow their inner guidance to make tough choices when faced with problems that lack clear answers.
- Leaders face uncertainty and criticism due to operating on the edge of knowledge and morality. Self-validation is key to withstanding public judgments.
- Hierarchies are socially constructed and position says nothing about one’s inherent qualities. Wisdom and authority come with experience over time.
- Servant leadership empowers followers to excel.
- Anti-authoritarianism targets tyranny, not legitimate authority that’s based on expertise. Thoughtful leaders who question power structures should seek power.
- Resentment sometimes stems from others’ ambitions, not the leader’s qualities.
- Developing a confident leadership mindset requires reframing one’s self-concept through training like the kind that we offer.
Table of Contents:
00:00 – Intro
01:47 – Power often gets a bad rap
08:49 – Leaders go first
10:40 – Leaders must make decisions with their own inner guidance
23:16 – Leaders face a lot of trolley problems, where there’s no good solution, only trade offs
29:09 – Leaders attract envy and resentment — this is not personal, and comes with the territory
34:51 – Leaders have to speak publicly, so you should start getting comfortable with this
35:33 – Public speaking masterclass in January
37:58 – Outro
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Luke Chao and Pascal Langdale are the co-hosts of the How to Be an Adult podcast. Possessing of a philosophical approach to life, they are both keenly interested in improving the society they live in. In this podcast, they share their thoughts freely in order to democratize high-quality living.