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Not every relationship lasts forever, and it’s when a relationship ends that all your self-loving and self-caring will really matter. In this episode, Luke and Pascal draw from their own personal heartbreaks to discuss some ways to cope with a breakup:
- Experiencing a breakup is a normal grieving process, not a sign of being “broken.”
- Acceptance is the inevitable end point.
- Both parties can walk away from a breakup with their self-worth and dignity intact.
- Avoid blaming yourself or your ex, and focus on questions that lead to growth.
- Practice self-care and self-compassion during this difficult time.
- Your worth is inherent as a human being, not defined by others.
- There are multiple paths to happiness and fulfillment beyond any one relationship.
- Relationships naturally have an end date, which is not inherently bad.
- The one constant, permanent relationship is the one you have with yourself.
- Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you navigate the grieving process.
Table of Contents:
00:00 – Introduction
01:26 – You are grieving, and it’s normal to go through the stages of grief
04:54 – At the end is acceptance, which is the light at the end of the tunnel
08:41 – You can both walk away with your dignity and your (separate) futures fully intact
18:35 – Remember to love and care for yourself, to, as you will often be the person most in need of your support
25:23 – Nobody is the arbiter of your worth, not even your inner critic, and especially not your ex
28:44 – There are multiple (perhaps infinite) paths to happiness and love, never just one
34:03 – Most of your relationships have an end date, and this is not a bad thing
39:31 – Outro
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Luke Chao and Pascal Langdale are the co-hosts of the How to Be an Adult podcast. Possessing of a philosophical approach to life, they are both keenly interested in improving the society they live in. In this podcast, they share their thoughts freely in order to democratize high-quality living.